Dating in the digital age is no walk in the park.
It requires that you keep your feelings at bay and your eyes wide open instead of wide shut and zeroed in too closely on the illusion of potential. Dating in the digital age means sliding into DMs instead of chance meetings on the train after work commutes, or blind set-ups from mutual friends. You rarely get the opportunity to invest before you swipe left for something shinier and more new. So many options, so little substance.
It also means ...
I was taught you only ever went to the doctor when something was wrong.
When I was growing up frequent doctors and dentist visits meant time off work my mother didn't have the luxury of taking. As an adult, my annual trip to the doctor's office is only for a routine Pap Smear, which means my doctor's visits, can vary from one to none. This might frighten some, but I'm more worried for my health when visiting a doctor, considering the statistics. Studies repeatedly show the lasting distrust be...
As a budding entrepreneur, I rarely ever go out for brunch on the weekends, let alone remember to have breakfast most days.
I'm usually too preoccupied to think about food. Instead, I'm thinking about the neverending emails I need to respond to, reading up on emerging trends in my industry, learning new marketing strategies, hopping on calls with my business partner, or creating.
Recently, I decided to switch things up and mix business with pleasure, and attended an #UnitedWeBrunch event. Fou...
Rekindling the Sovereign Child: How Indulging My Inner Child Ignited My Creativity & Helped Me Channel My “Carefree Black Girl"
By DeJanae Evins. Photography by Eric Michael Ward.
Eating less sugar and more greens, going to bed at a decent hour and managing not to get lost in the grocery store are just a few things I was instructed to do as a child that I still lend value to today. Food is meant to be nourishing to the body, and rest for rejuvenation. I can manage to navigate the produce section and find all the ingredients for vegan ravioli just fine. But clinging tight to the idea to never get lost birthed a fear in...
BY DEJANAE EVINS. PHOTOGRAPHY BY RIKKI WRIGHT.
Giving power to your truth is liberating. Living in your truth is a revolutionary act.
I don’t commend myself for my growth as often as I should. I’ve made the mistake of measuring my growth and wisdom by how many years I’ve lived through as opposed to the experiences that have made me more self-aware.
Striving for growth, unlearning and relearning, is something that has been high on my list, as it will never be checked off. Ye...
By DeJanae Evins. Photography by Deun Ivory.
When I was a little girl I’d soak in the tub until my toes would wrinkle. I’d lather my legs with bubble bath and use a hair clip to pretend I was shaving. So much has changed since then. Now, I’m more conscious of the things I put into and onto my body. I can’t say I shave much. But I do make time for long baths. And I’ve since replaced soaking in bubble bath with basking in fragrant salt and sugar scrubs.
There’s no one definition of how one expr...
Here’s a gentle exfoliant that will help you put your fresh face forward without hesitation (or agitation)
Although my makeup routine, accompanied by a couple dozen YouTube tutorials, has been completely transformed and my eyebrow game is on an entirely new level, I was more surprised to learn about all the skincare items I had been sleeping on. I didn't really know much about serums, undereye creams, hydrating primers or masks. I thought shea butter, black soap, and a spritz of rose water was all I needed for flourishing skin. That is until I got serious about making this gentle exfoliant a part of my routine.
I've never been one to be coy about sex.
There isn't much that I won't try and nothing I'm afraid to talk about when sex is involved. I wouldn't say I'm a sex advocate but I'm absolutely for women experiencing just as much, if not more, pleasure as men in their sexual exchanges. However, I'll admit there have been times that my desire for adventure has led me to suffer in silence.
As a result, I've had men that equated being 'd*cked down' to 'smashing' and 'beating the breaks off the p*** ' c...
Black women hustle hard. For some, that hustle is taking care of a family. For others, it’s turning an avocation into an empire. And for Shonitria Anthony, creator of Blunt Blowin’ Mama, it’s both. She’s an entrepreneur, a proud mother, and her ideal way to relax and unwind is to smoke a joint.
Trap music is a saga of a gritty, motivational truth. Although some may listen to Gucci Mane, Waka Flocka, (early) T.I., 2 Chainz, Future, Migos or Jeezy for the soulful synths, snares, 808s, and country grammar, others listen for the tales of struggle to triumph. While mainstream trap music might be detached from its roots having become new wave EDM, bona fide trap music still manages to be celebrated, in social settings where all can rap along, and even at the most intimate and spiritual of yoga sessions.
If you're thrilled by the longer days and shorter nights, now is your time to take full advantage. Although pool parties, "bottomless mimosa" brunches and music festivals are a must, they can do a number on our physical and spiritual health. It's important not to forget to take care of ourselves even when we're young and just enjoying life. Take advantage of the daylight hours, but don't forget to charge up with these counterbalancing activities.
I tried this crystal-infused facial steaming with rose petals for glowing skin — here’s what happened
Rose offers a complex array of vitamins and minerals, is great for quenching dry skin, and offers astringent properties that help battle acne, redness and inflammation. So, when I learned I could use my rose quartz for a high-vibe facial promoting inner and outer beauty, I wasted no time bringing a small pot of spring water to a piping hot temperature. Much like roses, rose quartz crystals live up to their name.
As someone who loves love, I can understand how and why rebound relationships work for some. But I have never been the rebound or the rebounding party in any type of 'situationship.' I know that some people are seemingly unfazed by one relationship and effortlessly blossom in the next. I can't. It takes me quite a while to get into a relationship and just as long to get over it.
They say the only way out of a bad relationship is to go all the way through it. But haven't you been through enough already? You might have gotten that left-field text from your significant other's significant other, been greeted with the "who's this b*tch?" and warped into a classic episode of Cheater's or, even worse, you have the STD that ushered in flaming clouds, turning your Disney fairytale into a nightmare. If this applies to you, the process of coming out of a bad relationship without having a general scorn for the opposite sex might be easier said than done.
As you get older, you start to care less about how many friends you have and more about the quality of the people you keep in your circle. Inevitably, you reach a point when it's necessary to excommunicate yourself from a certain person or group that doesn't align with the vision that you have for your life or the person you aspire to be.
But no break-up is an easy break-up, even friendships.
I have yet to fully comprehend how to go about this, as I am still in the process of unlearning old h...